March 8, 2009
IWD is a major day of global celebration
for the economic, political and social achievements
of women past, present and future.
In the days since deciding to host an International Women's Day Blog party, I've spent a lot of time in thought about the women I know. Zeroing in on just one woman to acknowledge as having had a major impact on my life is much more difficult than I thought it might be. It's good, I believe, to think back over one's life and remember the ones who have helped make us who we are and who we still might be.
I asked the men in my life what women they might pick. My father, ever one to challenge a perfectly good thought, thinks everyone will naturally pick their mother, so what's the point? Has any one woman had any more impact on a girl than her mother, he asked without looking up from his dinner plate.
Sweetie acknowledged that his mother had an impact on his life but in a very negative way. It wasn't until he was older that he could embrace that negativity and use it as a driving force rather than a hindrance. As if to prove to his mom he wasn't a loser, he became a winner. (Makes me think of the Johnny Cash song, A Boy Named Sue!) Still, if he had to pick an influential woman he's not sure he'd pick his mother.
When asked, Cherish suggested that it depends on where a girl is in her life. For example, a mother might impact a younger girl's life or one just becoming a mother herselv. However if said girl is in college trying to discover her future path, then maybe she will be more influenced by a favorite author if she wants to be a writer, or scientist if she wants to be a doctor, or film critic if she wants to go into film making. Out of the mouths of babes, I thought. Good point!
To me it's a given - mothers are the primary force behind most women. For good or for bad, our mothers do wield a great deal of power. My own mother, gone for 5 years, still lives in the shadows of my life.
Even though it seems a bit like being a control freak, I thought I'd make some IWD Blog Party guidelines. The bottom line is if you want to come to the party, please do. And bring any woman/women (the more the merrier) you feel like bringing.
- She can be a woman from history or down the street.
- She can be young or old.
- She can be alive or long deceased.
- She can be powerful who roars so that people take notice, or someone who moves mountains with quiet gentleness.
- She can be related to you or someone you'd like to meet one day.
- She can be in any line of work or play.
On that same note, I realize that my first broadcast email about this party was only sent to women. I had women on the brain and didn't think much beyond that. After talking to my menfolk, I realized that I had really narrowed the playing field. I think it will be interesting to get a masculine perspective on the importance of women in their lives.
So spread the word. Ask the questions ... what woman has had the biggest impact on your life? What woman would you like to acknowledge by name or by deed? Then come back to this blog on March 8 and tell us who the women are by leaving a comment. You don't have to join anything. You can comment anonymously, but I hope you don't.
I'm excited. I hope you are too.