Friday, April 23, 2010

Things I Learned from my Cat #2

When you are feeling in need of a little bit of love,
don't wait for it to come to you.
Grab it whenever/wherever you can.

I had a friend who often told the story of when her son was young how he would follow her around talking nonstop. As he grew older he would tell stories she really didn't want to here. Her only reprieve, or so she thought, was the bathroom. She'd take a book and lock herself into the room where there was only one seat and the promise of privacy.

Thing was, her son would sit right down on the other side of the door and continue talking.

I think about this every time I go into the bathroom and forget to shut the door til it clicks in place. Girl Cat has decided my bathroom time is "our" special time. It doesn't matter what the clock says, whether it is day, night, or the wee hours of the morning. If Girl Cat hears me lift the toilet lid, she's there beside me. Sometimes she's even there before I get there, jumping on the seat as I'm lowering myself without looking. One day soon she's going to get peed on. When it happens she can't say she hasn't been warned.

Some days she is content to perch herself on the edge of the sink and wait while I tinkle, shower, slather myself in body lotion or dry my hair. Other days, like this morning, it's all about stop-what-you-are-doing-because-I-need-some-loving-and-I-need-it-now. Or in other words, MEOW! MEOW! MEEEEEOOOOOWWWW!

I wrapped the towel around my dripping self, sat on the commode, pulled her into a rather wet but loving embrace. Nuzzling the toilet paper roll and the grab bar and the crossword puzzle book then circling around for the most comfortable spot, she settled in. This was my sign to scratch her head and stroke her back. The cat who rarely purrs, began to rev up her motor. Ahhh, cat bliss.

Once when I was complaining that a certain someone (not my Sweetie) rarely if ever hugged me, a very wise person asked me why I didn't trade places, becoming the hugger instead of the huggee. Or if that didn't work, why not ask for a hug if that is what I need. Huh? Does a hug count if you have to ask for it?

Well, yes, Virginia it does. A hug is a hug is a hug. What I didn't know at that time but have come to discover is a hug, asked for or not, undoubtedly feels good for both parties.

Stepping out of the shower this morning, I was tuned into getting dry, getting dressed and getting Dad's breakfast. However, after sitting with Girl Cat and having a few quiet moments of unexpected bonding, I felt much less hurried. A reminder that humans don't know everything.

Wishing for you something furry to hug and time to reflect,
Merry ME


Fire Byrd said...

THat's why despite the complete inconvienence of my dog I wouldn't swap her. She is where I get my daily hugs from. And her being pleased to see me and wagging her very long tail with pleasure just makes me smile.

AkasaWolfSong said...

There is that something about the unconditional love of the animal kingdom that thrills me to no end...I so miss my pets for that reason. Sadly I can't have them any longer due to allergies but I miss my Buster...
It is also known they lower blood pressure and I can see why...
Enjoy Girl Cat...I can see why she adores you so much!
Have a Great Weekend...

pattie said...

Hugs are the best medicine...
Both of my cats do this too! You do so have to love the moment!

Tracey Catarozoli a.k.a Sally Sunshine said...

Awww Merry Me! My shower buddy, BigEarra wants to send Girl Cat a big ol' purr too! I think it's funny that I have not taken a shower or gone to the bathroom (or taken my contacts out or ANYTHING) by myself in more than 6 years! Unconditional love...Stalking...whatever! I love it all!! :o) And thanks for the reminder of how much I love it! xoxo

Pamela Jones said...

GC sounds like my kind of gal!
Isn't it funny how the aloof felines can be so demanding of attention? I think in my next life, I'll be a cat!

Molly said...

oh, yes, I can identify. my trips to the bathroom are interpreted as captive petting time. thanks for the emails - i have listened to teh keillor one but not the other. i will try it.